Well, it’s been a while since I sat down and wrote an actual post so it feels good to be back. The reason I took a few months off from writing and being active on social media – besides changing the website and creating a new freebie, which you can get here – has been due to something that I will write about today, and that is why having a self care routine is important.
See, for months I have struggled with knowing what really makes me happy and what I really want to spend the rest of my life doing, so by the time autumn arrived, I felt pretty awful and spent and it was only natural for me to take some time away from writing and truly look inside to find the answers.
Going through my self care routine every day has been the most important thing I had done in the past two months. I went through a bit of a middle twenties crisis if I may call it like that, because I listened to everyone else for the majority of my life and now it hit me back, you see. It hit me back in a way that hurt the most – by taking away my passion for writing. As I am writing this, I feel a bit foreign to typing and thinking about what the next sentence will be – although it is not really me who is putting this post together, as something inside my brain happens to be aware of what I will do next more than I am – but nonetheless I need to write this and get back on the road.
I wrote about creating a self care routine before and it is something that is very dear to my heart, but I want to explore more of it and I want to go deeper, because I firmly believe that vegans are not doing enough on this front and must create a self care routine as fast as they can, otherwise it could cost them their health and we all know how precious our health is.
- Your self care routine should consist of things that are good for you, of things that make you happy and fulfil you. Forget about gossip magazines and comparing your body to the body of an Insta model; I am talking about taking a bath with bubbles and a good book, I am talking about a refreshing walk among the trees and flowers and streams; I am talking about laughing out loud with friends who appreciate your company and do not fill your head with lies and unkind words.
- Your self care routine should move you in the direction of peace and relaxation. It should take away the burdens you have carried with you throughout the day and give you a place to breathe and recharge.
- Your self care routine should not depend on money, time, or people around you. It should be free, timeless, and it should be able to be done even when the world is going mad and the media is screaming out loud. It should be a part of you, something that no one and nothing can remove or dictate.
Your self care routine can take up to three hours or it can last for five minutes, that is absolutely up to you, but one thing should be clear – it must be done daily.
I can tell you that taking time for myself in the past two months has been absolutely crucial for my mental health. I have been questioning my ability to stand in truth when lies are being spat out by someone else; I have been questioning my willingness to sacrifice a peaceful future for a future of change, because no, in my case they cannot be done hand in hand; I have been questioning the person I thought I was.
While I was going through my middle twenties crisis – which was absolutely needed and not even that hard as I perhaps make it to be – I had a constant self care routine that I practiced every day. It consisted of three things:
- Journaling in my diary.
- Facing at least one fear every day and denying it its presence.
- Taking responsibility for my actions.
I filled 365 pages in three weeks. Yes, three weeks of constant writing about what I was thinking about – and let me tell you, a lot of emotions went out just as easily as they came in, simply because once I wrote them down I was able to let rotten feelings towards certain people go. I think that might just be the answer to getting over a break up, which I will try as soon as I, you know, break up with someone.
(p.s. – when I say that I lost my passion for writing, I mean writing for my website. Journaling was more about putting my thoughts on paper and not about writing for the sake of writing.)
Every day I took at least one fear and looked it in the eye. I questioned it and observed it and questioned it even more. And then I did exactly what I was afraid of. From being completely honest with my dad about how I feel, to leaving delusional people behind me and e-mailing a billionaire on his personal email about my awesome business idea (no, it was not Elon Musk and yes, the idea is completely crazy and if my mind doesn’t intervene, you will know what it is in the near future). I ignored the fear and did what I had to do in that moment, and then I didn’t look back but just kept on moving forward.
Taking responsibility for ones actions perhaps doesn’t sound as an act of love or something to put on a self care schedule, but it’s totally what I did. I took responsibility and removed fake-ass people from my life; I took responsibility and took my role as an aunt more seriously; I took responsibility and became a better mother to Chuck (our dog); I took responsibility and didn’t write when I knew that I wouldn’t write from a place of love and compassion. I took responsibility for how my life looked and there is no better act of self care as is that of being in charge of your own life.
I already offered a few self care ideas in my previous post that you can read here, but I promise that this is the topic I will talk about much more in the future.
Until then, can you take a minute and let me know in the comments what your self care routine looks like? How do you relax and connect with peace inside of you? Can you share any beautiful resources that are all about self care? I would absolutely love to know, lovely.