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The beauty and danger of belief + how to change the world

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It doesn’t happen often that a song makes me rethink my beliefs, but when it comes to John Mayer, he can pretty much do anything with his music. His album Continuum is probably the best album that anyone has ever put together – alongside Leighton Meester’s Heartstrings – and his song Slow Dancing in a Burning Room is my favourite song of all time, but it’s his song Belief that actually inspired me to write this today. It was his song Belief that made me question some things.

The line in Belief that touched me the most and that always puts a knife in my heart because it’s so painfully true, he sings: »Belief is a beautiful armor but makes for the heaviest sword, like punching underwater, you never can hit who you’re trying for.«

Just listen to the song performed live. Beautiful.

As people we always fight beliefs and ideas that people have about how the world should be. We fight others because their beliefs are not the same as ours and we kill because we are convinced in our way of living. We protest and shout, shoot and punch, all because we want to change the world; because we want to fight the beliefs of others who are different from us.

That doesn’t mean that all beliefs are to be accepted and never questioned, as far as things go in my book, if your beliefs aren’t harming others, you can believe in whatever you want.

But that’s not how things are isn’t it? That’s not how the world works. Our beliefs have done more harm than good. Our beliefs have killed more people than saved.

So how can we save the world? How can we fight beliefs? In the words of John Mayer, we are never going to win the world, we are never going to stop the war, if belief is what we are fighting for.

I wish there would be an easy answer, or at least an answer that would be understood by most people, but there isn’t one. All we can do is not try to change other people’s beliefs, but live our truth.

The world was built on beliefs. Some beliefs are harmful and dangerous, others are innocent. Some beliefs need to be protected, others need to be rejected. How do we know which beliefs are which? Look in your heart. Look around. Look at which beliefs harm and which don’t.

  • Believing that some people should be killed because they believe in something else is a harmful belief and should be rejected.
  • Believing that one gender or race is less valuable than the other is a belief that is harmful and should be rejected.
  • Believing in an invisible man in the sky and in the book that was written by primitive man is dangerous and should be rejected.
  • Believing that one species of animals must dominate the other is dangerous and should be rejected.

What makes a belief dangerous and harmful? A belief should be rejected if it oppresses someone else, if it harms the other being, and most importantly, if that belief kills. The second someone dies because of a belief, it should be rejected.

Another thing that inspired this post is a video by someone whom I deeply admire and I think he is a genius, and that is Sam Harris. Sam is a philosopher, author of multiple books – his book Waking Up is one of my favourites, and a neuroscientist. He often debates religious people and talks about meditation and consciousness and the observer and all the things that I love.

Anyway, here is a video that talks about the dangers of religious beliefs.

I remember a few months ago, when I was passionately figuring out the best ways to change the world and how to make a huge difference in the world while living my short life, I heard one of my favourite animal advocates, Colleen Patrick-Goudreau, talk about on her podcast Food For Thought, about how we should stop changing the world and change ourselves instead. Why? Because we ARE changing the world either way, we don’t have to do it. We already are doing it.

We are all working on the outside. We want to change the world yet we rarely change ourselves. Remember that famous quote by one of my favourite plant eaters Lev Tolstoy? He said that everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing themselves. Truer words have never been spoken.

Yes, let’s debate and protest and physically stop if necessary. Yes, let’s change the world and make it a better place.

But let’s do it by changing ourselves first. Let’s fight beliefs by living according to our own way of compassion. Let’s stop fighting the war and instead bring peace to the world. Let’s stop protesting against slavery and let’s protest for equality. Stop using your voice to speak and instead do.


Let your life be an example.

Yes, beliefs are harmful and we can rarely change them, but if we want to take a shot at influencing those whose beliefs are harmful and dangerous, the best way to do it is through our own life. We can’t avoid beliefs in a world of ours, but we can change all our beliefs into one – compassion. Let that be your biggest belief that you live by.

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Mind detox + how social media controls us

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In late July I was given a challenge to detox my mind for 12 days by not reading, listening to music/podcasts, writing, watching movies/shows/videos and checking social media; basically to spend 12 days without anyone telling me what to do in any form.

I did that.

I hated it.

I loved it.

If you know a bit about me, you know that we don’t own a TV at home, so I have been TV free for like 6 years or something and I kind of went through a mind detox back then, but that was much different. Social media is awfully clever. Well, people that run them and people who post on them are awfully clever.

They know how to sell, what to sell, when to sell, why to sell; they know how to sell that what they want you to do is needed and it is needed to be done by you. They are very good at it.

But more than people who professionally sell you ideas, social media manages to bring the worst out of people. You don’t know how weak you are at controlling your mind until you go on Facebook and find yourself stalking an old friend who did you wrong. That’s when you know you really hit that low point and you should be ashamed of yourself.

Every day we watch people live their lives presented through the camera lenses in the form of photos and videos. They pick the best moments – like we all do, let’s not pretend we are any different – and feed us with them. We are craving new content from them to chew on. To taste that happy perfect life they present. And it doesn’t even matter if they are honest about not having the life they present on their social media, we still want it. We must have it!

So what do we do?

We follow people that we like and want to be like. We watch videos with content that is far too superficial to be even seen as educational, yet we consume it like we have never eaten before. We let celebrities – whom we admire – influence our taste in music, politics, food, clothes, beauty, relationships etc.

If my favourite actor does that, I must do it too. He is influential, he is powerful, and he is more than I am.


They are all just people who share their views and opinions. But we – the weak followers of the leaders in the shadow – we trust them and want to be like them, mainly because through that same source of evil – meaning social media – we are taught that our lives suck and we should be miserable.

We are brainwashed into behaving like victims.

I don’t blame celebrities. They are just humans. They are the same as you are with the exception of fame and a bigger pay check. But they are humans too. You just forget that.

During those 12 days I heard myself again. I heard my voice. I think I forgot how it sounded like.

When I had no one else to tell me what I should do and what I should think, I could see the world for myself again. I could experience life on my own terms, without anyone telling me in advance what is supposed to happen.

Did I miss those voices? Sure.

Did I get my dose of social media afterwards? Sure.

Did I lose my voice again? No.

I still get influenced by those other voices, but I am much more careful with accepting them. I filter the heck out of everything I hear. That doesn’t mean that I am living in the forest or that I think social media is the devil, not at all, but I know the difference between my voice and the voice of those who are unintentionally harming me with their ideas.

I challenge you to go through a 12 day detox.

I dare you.

But before you go, keep in mind that social media makes it easier to meet people that you can form beautiful friendships with, so find me on Twitter and Instagram.


p.s. – If you need any ideas on how to take better care of yourself, I wrote a post a while ago with a few self care ideas. You can read it right here.

Vegan love. Should vegans date animal eaters?

Today I talk about vegan love and vegan love only. Should vegans date non vegans? Why or why not?

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Before we begin, I just want to say that I am the last person you should listen to when it comes to relationships but nonetheless I will talk about it. The big question that I have been asking myself for the past three years has been this: should vegans date animal eaters? Is it possible for someone that has a compassionate heart towards all animals to date someone that doesn’t give a shit about animal lives? Let’s find out.

I guess the main thing that one should consider before starting to date someone that is not vegan, is whether or not they would be willing to be with that person in case they never go vegan. Could they live with someone that would buy dead animal body parts and stuck them in the fridge? Could they kiss someone that just ate a steak or a cheese sandwich? Could they truly find happiness with someone that thinks of other species of animals as lesser than them?

Of course, people are different and we all have a different view on the world. Some vegans would be okay with their partner drinking a gallon of milk right next to them and then kissing them (I think I threw up a little bit), while others would be leaving the person behind the first time they’d see them even consider killing a spider. It’s about how much you can handle and how much you are willing to accept.

I suppose the good thing about dating a non vegan is that you have a chance to help them see the truth and support them on their journey. It would get messy if even after watching Earthlings (full documentary, not just the first 20 minutes) they wouldn’t see a problem with abusing animals though. Just think about it, okay?

There are no rules when it comes to relationships in the vegan world. Everyone is free to date whoever they like, and honestly, I wouldn’t judge anyone. Except if you would be dating a slaughterhouse worker, then yes, I would have a slight problem. But it’s your choice. You can only do good while dating a non vegan; I doubt you can corrupt someone even more if you are eating your veggies next to them.

Now I will give you some dating tips, okay? Again, remember that I am the last person that you should take any dating tips from but I will do it anyway.

  • Do not mention that you are vegan just out of the blue. It’s not activism, it’s just fucking annoying and they won’t care. Wait for the right opportunity to mention that you don’t like to abuse animals – it’s much more appropriate and lovely.
  • Make sure that you choose the place where you will go to eat. I am not sure why you go eat with someone that you have just met, but maybe that’s just me, because I don’t eat in front of people I don’t know. Anyway, make sure you choose a vegan place and avoid any chances that your date could take to order a steak or a cheese plate.
  • Do not talk about slaughterhouses, and for nature’s sake, do not show any graphic things on a date. I don’t know why you would but ya never know with the youth today.
  • Wear a lovely outfit and make sure you avoid any shirts that say: meat is murder. That’s not lovely and kind; your date would appreciate not being called a murderer on the first date. It’s just not nice.

That was more of a fun post to write; not necessarily something I hope you take too seriously. Like I said earlier, it’s totally up to you who you decide to date and be in a relationship with. Just remember to know your values and beliefs; do not settle for someone that doesn’t fit your standards. And for goodness sake – create high standards for yourself, will you? You deserve only the best.

If you are just looking for friends though – here is a post all about finding new vegan friends.

Share the vegan love and be the vegan love. Do all things with love.

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