A few days ago I read a comment on Reddit by someone who said that we can never really feel uncomfortable as there is no one to feel uncomfortable.
Meaning, thoughts arrive on their own. We don’t create them, they just come and go as they please. Like clouds.
So when you start thinking that you are uncomfortable, you are only choosing to attach yourself to these thoughts that say you are uncomfortable. But there really is no proof of that, as thoughts come and go and are never the same.
What happens when we decide to not grab the first thought that comes in and says that a situation is uncomfortable, is that we just aren’t uncomfortable.
It’s really that simple.
Errr… kind of.
It takes practice to learn how to ignore the thoughts and not identify with them. I myself am very much struggling with it every day. But knowing that I am an open space and the thing I call Tanja is an illusion, I am capable of more often stepping back and feeling completely peaceful with whatever is.
Just think about it for a second. If you realize that thoughts are like clouds that fly by every second of the day and if you don’t bother them they won’t bother you, why would anything make you feel uncomfortable?
It’s just a thought.
Sometimes thought of danger pops in when I see a bee flying near me and sometimes thought that screams war appears when I see someone I dislike. And sometimes I see a bee or a person I dislike and the thoughts are peaceful and quiet.
They are never the same. There is no proof if what they say is true. They are like little children that come in the house screaming about something that makes no sense and if you say okay, let’s just play now, they will be quiet and move on.
You’re not uncomfortable, the thoughts are convincing you that you are.
What happens when you don’t pay attention to them?
You can move on and continue doing whatever is that you were doing. You can choose to see them or not, it’s totally up to you. The point is, you don’t have to believe them if you don’t want to.
What helps me with being the observer of the thoughts and be less reactive to them is meditation. I have talked about it often (here is just one of many, many posts) and I truly want to inspire you to give it a try.
The beautiful thing is that you notice the benefits after only a few sessions (or right away if you are like me).